What To Consider When Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Writing your own wedding vows can be a beautiful and personal way to express your love and commitment to your partner.
Here are some things to consider when writing your own wedding vows:
Tone and style: Think about the tone and style you want to convey in your vows. Do you want them to be romantic, humorous, or serious? Do you want to include personal anecdotes or quotes from literature or poetry? Maybe the entire thing is a poem.
Length: Consider the length of your vows. You don't want them to be too long, but you also don't want them to be too short. Aim for around 2-3 minutes of speaking time. Or if you are eloping do whatever you want. I would recommend communicating the length with your partner - I have been to weddings where one person’s vows are 1 minute and the others is 7 minutes.
Your relationship: Reflect on your relationship with your partner and what makes it unique. What are the things you love most about your partner? What challenges have you overcome together? How has your partner changed your life?
Your promises: Think about the promises you want to make to your partner. This is the meat of your vows. What are the things you want to vow to do for them? For yourself? For the relationship? How will you support them, love them, and be there for them through thick and thin?
Practice: Practice reading your vows out loud before the wedding day. This will help you feel more comfortable and confident when it comes time to recite them in front of your loved ones. I would recommend working on your vows weeks before the wedding day. This should be something you really spend time putting together.
Keep it authentic: Don't try to be someone you're not when writing your vows. Speak from the heart and be true to yourself and your relationship. Fuck what anyone else thinks.
Remember, your wedding vows are a reflection of your love and commitment to your partner. Take the time to craft something that is meaningful and true to your relationship.